Let him Pe‎netrate.

With the recent surge of elegant, feminine women rising forward to extol the glory of femininity, there is also an emerging counter-culture... as always.

There are women on social media who are in healthy, godly, long-term relationships and marriages who are encouraging young women to embrace their feminine power. They inspire other women to embody these virtues of patience and compassion, not only for their relationships, but for all of their loved ones.

As usual, they are being accused of being manipulative, gold diggers, and every other epithet in the book.

By whom, you ask?

It's not by men or women exclusively, but often a vast mix of them.

Today, I do not seek to refute them, but rather to discuss the possible reason for these assertions.

There is no denying that women (or people) who appear and behave more put together and beautiful are far more loved in society than who do not. Regardless of your personality, pretty privilege is a very real thing. I am a firm believer of the fact that beauty is the sole truth, but is that all that is required to be more 'feminine'? Is that all it takes to build better relationships?

I once knew a very gorgeous and elegant young lady. She was characterised as a textbook "mean girl" by the majority of the people around us. I, however, didn't know enough about her to know whether that was accurate. Nevertheless, this was a few years ago, so my discernment was not as sharp.

She never carried anyone's bags for them. She was never rash when it came to doing things for the males around us. I was starting to buy into the idea of her truly being the callous spawn of the devil...

...like young, competitive women do.

Yet she was the one person there for me when I was in the most vulnerable position I'd ever been in public. I won't go into the specifics, but she spoke to me in the most nurturing, understanding way. Back then, she taught me a valuable lesson.

You don't have to do anything as a lady. All you have to do is be.

You don't even need to have decent, masculine men in your life (family and friends), to live that way. All you need is discernment, experiential knowledge, and a firm will.

The biggest virtue (or rather advantage) of being a woman is passivity. All material prosperity for a woman stems from having an extremely receptive and welcoming approach towards almost everything in life. The less you do but the more you focus on your 'marketing' (looks, personality, and attitude) the more you receive. ALL males surrounding you provide you with safety, provision, and care. No wonder the marketing and public relations industries are majorly dominated by women!

I'm sure you're all wondering: how do these women do it?

Why do people pour into these women, when they 'don't put any effort into anything'?

The truth is that these women are the most biologically aligned with their nature. In comparison to the sperm, they are mentally aligned with the egg's passive role.

They are spiritually aligned with their function as women- MAGNETISM.

In an exchange between two people, one will always be more passive while the other will be more active, pursuing the passive one. The more passive one is, the more active the other becomes, and vice versa. If you are extremely passive as a woman, you will attract men who believe in DOING. You will not only attract but exclusively pick men who believe in doing, while ignoring those who are passive just like you. That is the essence of polarity- opposites attract. And when I say "men", I don't mean romantically, I just mean having a healthy amount of generous, bountiful masculine presence around you. Ultimately, our male partner is the entire masculine half of the Universe for us, which also reflects on the bonds we create with all males.

Passivity does not imply being mute on a date while he does all the talking, or never speaking up against injustices perpetrated by your male boss. It is a far deeper, darker element of femininity that is so similar to what was once referred to as "witchcraft."

Women who appear to 'do nothing' and receive numerous favours from others around them, on the other hand, are often disliked by the general public. People accuse these ladies of being manipulative. In my opinion, the present concept of 'manipulative' women is utterly misinterpreted.

Speaking of the marketing industry- it requires one to put their best foot forward... even if both their feet are quite average in general. All kinds of business and marketing fields are related to Mercury in astrology. Mercurial women (Ashlesha, Jyeshtha, and Revati nakshatras) are also adept at the 'marketing' aspect of femininity. They are not only incredibly talented in the arts and aesthetics, but they also know what to say, when to say it, and how to express it. In my research of 190 women in long term relationships/marriages (15+ years), Jyeshtha was the 2nd highest placement for the ascendant, and the 3rd highest placement for Rahu. Click on the Instagram post on the left to read more.

This ties into how passivity for a woman is essentially never commanding a man what to do but inspiring him to do it. It is about making him feel so warm and comfortable that he wishes to pour into you. It is about learning to convey your desires in a loving and understanding manner, and letting him figure out how to make them a reality. It is about generating a 'dilemma' for him to solve or walk away from.

It is about creating a space for him and letting him penetrate it at his own will.

Commanding him will put you in an active position and and even if he swears he will, he will never obey. This is why it is essential for women to learn the Mercurial arts of seduction, expression, speech, and beauty. I discuss this in further detail in a previous blog post: So You Can-t Flirt, huh?

Any man who is worth your time and energy in any sense, is willing to pour into you in some sense. This is because a solar man has cultivated and saved enough energy to feel comfortable about discharging (or rather investing) it. He is in a constant state of doing while there are returns. If you command this man to do something, he will never get it done. This is why, in general, nagging never works with men.

You can never make a masculine man do something, unless he does it from his own will.

So, what makes this any different than manipulation?

That is because although we exercise our feminine power to inspire men, we are not expecting an outcome. When others say 'no,' we know how to accept it.

All we have are desires. We do not become cranky and moody when they are refused, when we get rejected in any manner, or when things don't go our way. We realise our worth and have expectations, but we don't feel entitled to anything. When someone walks away, we accept it.

Even if we don't agree with the man's thoughts or advice on how to handle a situation, we must listen. If we consider ourselves 'too good' or 'too smart' for all men, we will never see the divinity in them. It's the emotional equivalent of shouting over someone because you don't want to hear what they have to say. Men have moved mountains over the eternity... it pays off.

I encourage you to trust a man's judgement. See where it takes you.

Love

-Sam <3