Swati Nakshatra and Relationships [Part 2]: International Soulmates, Grand Gestures, and Constant Stimulation

In Part 1 of the Swati Nakshatra series, we explored Swati through the lens of timelines and identity. The 7th house, in many ways, acts as a mirror of the 1st house. It reflects everything the mind has been consciously and subconsciously creating throughout life, projecting our inner world outward through people, situations, and relationships.

In this Part, we will explore Swati Nakshatra in the context of relationships and the 7th house, examining how connections are formed, how partners are chosen, and how identity, desire, and timelines intersect through relationships. This part looks at how Swati energy plays out not just within the self, but through the dynamic exchange between self and other, and how relationships become the primary arena where Swati’s fluid, choice-driven nature truly unfolds.

Cultural Appropriation

To understand this, it is helpful to briefly contrast Swati Nakshatra with Ashwini Nakshatra. In an Instagram reel (left), I spoke about how Ashwini Nakshatra tends to emphasize one’s own culture, origins, and identity. Ashwini energy is deeply concerned with returning home, both symbolically and psychologically. It is focused on discovering who one is at the most basic, instinctual level. Because of this, Ashwini often sees value in first owning one’s roots, rules, and cultural framework before moving outward. There is a sense that grounding oneself in what one is born into provides a stable starting point.

Swati Nakshatra operates in the opposite way. Ruled by Rahu, Swati is oriented toward the future, toward what is possible rather than what already exists. Instead of looking backward or inward, Swati looks ahead. As a result, Swati natives leave their identity behind to such an extent that they are often accused of cultural appropriation. Rather than borrowing elements from another culture temporarily, they may fully adopt an entirely different culture as their identity, lifestyle, and worldview. The culture they resonate with does not merely influence them, it becomes their personality. This behavior is also common with Saturn nakshatras and I'l talk about it in a future blogpost.

People in media adopting another culture (appropriation or conversion) [Left to Right]: Shanin Blake (Swati Sun) was accused of aestheticizing and monetizing a vague Indigenous/ancestral spiritual identity she doesn’t belong to, Nova Rockafeller (Swati Moon) was accused of posing as racially ambiguous and borrowing Black and Indigenous aesthetics to craft a “non-white” persona despite being white, Bella Poarch (Shatbhisha Moon) is Filipino but presented herself with a racially ambiguous, hyper-East Asian kawaii aesthetic.

Because of this, Swati natives are frequently labeled as privileged, as people who are supposedly free to pick and choose cultures that are not “theirs.” However, from the Swati perspective, identity itself is not fixed. There is a genuine belief that a person can become whoever they want to become. This worldview comes directly from Rahu’s desire, longing, and forward movement, sometimes in extreme or unfiltered ways, but fundamentally it governs the act of following desire itself. Even when those desires are not unhinged or excessive, Rahu still pushes the individual to act on them immediately, often without hesitation.

You will also notice this with director Karan Johar (Swati Moon). When he wants to depict Indian universities in his films, he often uses foreign universities instead, which aren’t relatable to most Indian viewers but simply look grand and cinematic on screen. For example, in the movie Student of the Year.

Pradhvamsa Shakti - Scattering and Dispersal

This is also why Rahu is associated with foreign lands, foreign cultures, and unfamiliar environments. There is a fascination with the “elsewhere,” with what lies beyond the familiar. In Swati, this can manifest as a desire to live, dress, think, and socialize according to a culture that feels more aligned with their aspirations and imagined future self. At a deeper level, this outward orientation can also reflect a reluctance to engage in inner work. In Swati Nakshatra, there is often a tendency to overthink situations intellectually while simultaneously avoiding deeper inward exploration.

In The Good Place, Chidi, played by William Jackson Harper (Swati Moon), is defined by chronic indecision. His inability to choose comes from an acute awareness that every decision opens up an entirely new timeline, with consequences that can spiral far beyond the moment itself. Because the show is fundamentally about timelines and moral cause-and-effect, Chidi’s paralysis reflects the fear of choosing the “wrong” path and ending up in the wrong version of reality altogether. Rather than looking within for transformation, Swati seeks change externally. This is why, as discussed in Part 1, Swati individuals often expect relationships to change them in some fundamental way. The partner becomes a catalyst for transformation, a gateway into a different timeline or identity.

The shakti associated with Swati nakshatra is Pradhvamsa Shakti (प्रध्वंसा शक्ति) or the power to scatter, disperse, and transform like the wind. For them, the entire world is their oyster. There is often a natural openness toward dating outside one’s culture, and while this tendency may be judged as shallow by others, it is anything but that. From an astrological perspective, the 7th house functions as a precise mirror of the self. It reflects one’s inner world, conscious and subconscious, back through relationships. This is also why the idea of there being only one true soulmate appears across many ancient cultures. Your soulmate does not have to be born in the same culture, country, or even city. Statistically speaking, the likelihood of such a narrow overlap is quite small, and Rahu nakshatras are often aware of this.

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Because of this, Swati Nakshatra places a strong emphasis on choice. They are less bound by cultural expectations, social norms, or traditional frameworks such as arranged marriage. In this way the desire for a particular place is not always shallow, and can be a projection of subconscious knowing. Places themselves function as energetic portals. Travel, in this sense, becomes a kind of wormhole, a deliberate shift in space and time that draws certain experiences closer.

When someone moves to a new place, they frequently lose their old life entirely, familiar routines, friendships, and support systems fall away. In the process of rebuilding, they are forced to seek connection in ways they may never have done before. They meet new people, explore unfamiliar social spaces, and open themselves up to experiences they would not have encountered had they stayed where they were. Very often, what they are actually being drawn toward is not the place itself, but an encounter that exists there.

International Spouses

In many cases, this encounter may be a soulmate, a significant friend (like a future best friend or business partner), several events in time and space, or the land itself may be intended for establishing an ancestral home or a long-term business. Sometimes it is a lesson, sometimes a mirror, and sometimes a turning point. Still, in the case of a soulmate, within the teachings of Swati Nakshatra there is a deep faith that desire is shared. Rahu ruless desire, and the 7th house rules partnership, which creates the belief that whatever you are longing for internally is also what your future partner longs for.

If you are drawn to a certain place, lifestyle, or version of yourself, there is a chance that your future partner is either already there or feels the same pull and is moving in that direction. This is how two people meet at the same place, at the same time, within the same timeline. Movement becomes the mechanism through which alignment occurs. Had you stayed in your hometown, avoided change, or never followed the impulse to explore something new, that meeting might have taken years longer, or never happened at all.

In Magha Nakshatra, things operate on a more abstract level, as I discussed in part 3 of my Magha Nakshatra series. You are always operating within a certain frequency, and your reality, including your daily habits, routines, and lifestyle, naturally aligns with that frequency. If you seek something beyond your current experience, it is not just about changing your actions. It requires a full shift in frequency. You have to evolve to a higher or different frequency to match the reality you desire. This is particularly abstract in Magha Nakshatra in Leo, where the focus is on aligning with an entire frequency of consciousness. In Swati, this process comes to its completion, marking a stage where transformation involves not only becoming a different person altogether but also potentially shifting your surroundings. You start defining exactly what that 'frequency' looks like in real time, outside of yourself. In this sense, your future partner is likely to be moving toward the same 'frequency' or may already inhabit the space that aligns with it. By changing your location, you create the conditions to fully align with that different frequency of consciousness.

A perfect example of this is the movie Eat Pray Love, where Julia Roberts (Swati Sun) travels after a breakup, first to Italy and India. She finally ends up finding her partner, her soulmate, in Bali, where she aligns her emotional, spiritual, and romantic self. She has also talked about her strong interest in Hinduism in real life even though she was born in a Christian family.

Other examples of movies where the protagonist finds love in foreign lands or while travelling are-

• Midnight in Paris - starring Owen Williams (Swati Moon)

• Notting Hill - starring Julia Roberts (Swati Sun)

• French Kiss - starring Kevin Kline (Swati Sun)

• The Big Sick - starring Zoe Kazan (Swati Ascendant) and Kumail Nanjiani (Shatbhisha Moon)

• Jab Harry met Sejal - starring Anushka Sharma (Swati Moon) and Shah Rukh Khan (Swati Sun and Ascendant)

• Far and Away - starring Tom Cruise (Swati Sun) and Nicole Kidman (Swati Ascendant)

• Dilwale Dulhaniya Le Jayenge - starring Kajol (Shatbhisha Moon and Ascendant) and Shahrukh Khan (Swati Sun and Ascendant)

• A Summer's Tale - starring Melvil Poupaud (Swati Moon)

• Love in Tokyo - starring Joy Mukherjee (Shatbhisha Sun) and Asha Parekh (Ardra Moon)

• Same Same but Different - starring David Kross (Ardra Sun)

• Holiday in the Wild - starring Kristin Davis (Shatbhisha Sun)

• Letters to Juliet - starring Chris Egan (Ardra Sun and Moon)

In this way, travel, curiosity about foreign lands, and openness to cultural fluidity are expressions of faith in timing, desire, and relational alignment. Space itself becomes the medium through which relationships are formed, and identity becomes something consciously stepped into, rather than something passively inherited.

This is why Swati Nakshatra carries a strong desire to be transformed through relationships. More than simply being curious about other cultures or lifestyles, they actively seek partners who are very different from them so that they can absorb new perspectives, new information, and entirely unfamiliar ways of living.

Often, Rahu Nakshatra natives carry an underlying belief that they already know everything about their own world, their own culture, or even life itself (even if they don't). To break this mental saturation, they need stimulation that feels disruptive. Subtle differences are not enough. They seek partners who are deeply rooted in their own cultures, belief systems, or lifestyles because that contrast provides the necessary friction for growth and fascination. Through this dynamic, Swati individuals learn, absorb, and sometimes even redefine themselves.

Grand Gestures and Boundary-Pushing Romance

In relationships, Swati Nakshatra thrives on learning. What keeps the relationship alive and exciting for them is the presence of something completely unknown and unexpected. If they already understand a person, a culture, or a worldview, their interest begins to fade. The relationship must offer knowledge, insight, or experiences that feel genuinely 'foreign' to them. This is why Swati and Rahu Nakshatras, in general, are rarely satisfied with mild stimulation. They require intensity, novelty, and a certain level of shock to stay engaged, as I discussed in an Instagram reel (right).

Rahu nakshatra people, especially Swati and Shatabhisha, need constant stimulation in relationships. They need the partner to continuously pursue them, approach them, tease them, romance them, initiate contact, (and vice versa) and keep the connection active. For them, romance is like 'vibration' as compared to 'static'. It is not something static that can be set and forgotten. A good way to understand this is through technology, especially the iPhone. Apple, founded by Steve Jobs (Shatabhisha Sun) designed their devices in a way where every single interaction creates stimulation. Every tap of a button produces vibration. Every sound produces feedback that can be felt physically in the hands. Even the audio itself has a tactile quality. If you play a mobile game on an iPhone with the sound on, you will notice that every small movement is accompanied by vibration and sensory response. As long as the phone is in your hand, there is constant stimulation. This is a design meant to be addictive, because the nervous system is continuously receiving small hits of sensation, like hits of a drug.

When a person becomes used to this level of stimulation, everything else in life begins to feel low in comparison. High stimulation environments condition the body to crave constant adrenaline, and adrenaline does not always feel bad. In fact, anxiety itself can feel good because it comes with a rush. Even when it is actively dysregulating the nervous system, it still feels exciting, engaging, and addictive. This is why people repeatedly return to their phones, why they seek constant input, and why they struggle to sit with stillness. A similar example is LED lighting. Unlike older incandescent bulbs, LED lights flicker really fast which cannot be seen with the naked eye. The body registers it even if the mind does not consciously notice it. This creates a subtle but constant state of stimulation and anxiety in the body. Many Ketu nakshatra conspiracy theorists talk about this phenomenon, as discussed in the Ashwini video, pointing out how modern environments are designed to keep people numb through overstimulation.

Rahu nakshatras function in a similar way in relationships. They seek stimulation because they are restless by nature, and stimulation keeps them interested. They seek romance, teasing, touch, play, pursuit, and constant interaction. You will often see them being highly flirtatious, dramatic, playful, and provocative. They like banter, tension, chemistry, and the sense that something is always happening. Their entire romantic dynamic can feel like foreplay that never fully ends. There is a restlessness to it, almost like restless leg syndrome, an inability to sit still emotionally or energetically.

Ketu, on the other hand, rules sedation, meditation, and stillness. Ketu nakshatra people are naturally inclined toward withdrawal, numbness, dissociation, or excessive inner focus. This is why Rahu and Ketu nakshatras are so strongly attracted to each other and often make great couples. Rahu jolts Ketu out of stagnation, inertia, and spiritual dissociation. Rahu brings sensation, desire, and engagement back into the body, like someone constantly poking you. Ketu, in return, provides grounding, containment, and nervous system regulation to Rahu. Ketu offers the stillness that Rahu secretly craves but does not know how to access on its own. Together, they balance stimulation and sedation, movement and rest, desire and detachment.

A clear example of this archetype appears in 10 Things I Hate About You, where Heath Ledger’s (Ardra Moon) character performs an exaggerated public musical gesture to express desire (see below). This scene perfectly captures the kind of overwhelming, theatrical stimulation that Rahu energy responds to. This pattern appears repeatedly in narratives involving Swati and Shatabhisha actors and directors, where romance is rarely quiet or subtle, but charged, provocative, and transformative.

Consentual Non-Consent and Brat-Taming

With Rahu nakshatras, “no” does not always function in a straightforward way within their own internal psychology. Consent is obviously a serious matter, and when someone genuinely says no, that boundary must always be respected. What this describes instead is a specific behavioral pattern often seen in Rahu nakshatra dynamics, especially in romantic contexts. Particularly for Rahu nakshatra women, saying no does not always mean a lack of interest. Sometimes, they say no even when they are interested, because they instinctively test the other person, especially a man, to observe his persistence, stability, and emotional grounding.

In storylines (real life or in media) involving Rahu nakshatra people, when a woman says no, a man may immediately back off, take the rejection personally, feel discouraged, or withdraw altogether. A man who is more grounded in his masculine energy and emotionally stable may not collapse under that initial resistance if he genuinely wants the woman. Instead, he may respond by showing up better, increasing effort, offering more acts of service, thoughtfulness, generosity, or emotional presence, rather than becoming resentful or insecure. With Rahu nakshatra women, when a man immediately backs off after she says no, that response can sometimes be a turn off for her. Rather than withdrawal, she may prefer that he returns with more confidence, clarity, and strength of intention.

This is where Rahu dynamics become complex. Rahu women may enjoy setting these soft boundaries as a form of testing, and Rahu men often enjoy meeting resistance because they interpret it as a challenge rather than a final rejection. For them, “no” does not automatically translate to “never,” but more often to “not yet,” or “not like this. Resistance becomes a signal to evolve, refine approach, and return with more intention.

Because Rahu nakshatras themselves use boundaries as a testing mechanism, they can sometimes struggle to recognize when someone else’s boundary is firm and non negotiable. This creates a gray area where they may unintentionally overstep, due to their projection and assumption that others operate the same way they do.

DISCLAIMER: this is an observation of a pattern, not encouragement to ignore consent or persist when someone has clearly expressed discomfort.

This is not dating advice, and it is not a justification for ignoring boundaries. Context, emotional intelligence, and awareness are everything. What this dynamic actually reflects is a deeper psychological playfulness. Rahu nakshatras often enjoy a bratty, teasing energy, and Rahu nakshatra men, in particular, are often drawn to the dynamic of “brat taming,” where resistance is symbolic, flirtatious, and mutual, rather than literal or coercive.

Dissolution of the Ego

You will also notice that Swati Nakshatra individuals tend to seek guidance from others far more than they consult their own intuition. They often counsel, advise, or ask people around them for perspective on their own lives, sometimes without doing the inner work required to access clarity independently. This habit can occasionally work in their favor if the person they consult is capable of offering an objective viewpoint rather than projecting their own experiences. More often, however, this approach backfires, as no one else can fully understand the nuances of another person’s life path.

Their impulse to merge with another culture, belief system, or partner does not arise from selflessness, but from Rahu’s desire to dissolve boundaries in order to experience something new. While this merging may appear sacrificial from the outside, it is not accurate to frame it as selfless. It is a self-directed desire to transform through the other. Swati individuals are often willing to leave behind what they know, what feels familiar, and even aspects of their identity in order to build a shared reality with a partner.

At a fundamental level, every human being carries a desire to merge with what feels opposite to them. As discussed earlier in the Ashwini analysis, people often experience a sense of lack, the feeling that something essential is missing. These “missing” qualities are frequently found in the Nakshatras that complement or balance one’s own. This does not indicate deficiency or inadequacy. It simply reflects differing areas of focus. No individual embodies every trait, and relationships allow those contrasting qualities to meet and integrate.

When two people come together from different orientations, a natural fusion occurs. In healthy dynamics, both individuals remain confident in themselves while still allowing transformation through relationship. Despite modern narratives emphasizing complete self-sufficiency, it is undeniable that partnership can bring a sense of completion through shared learning, adaptation, and growth. Over time, partners influence each other so deeply that their lives, values, and identities begin to intertwine.

Swati Nakshatra, in particular, finds this process unusually easy. Where others may struggle to adapt to a partner’s culture, lifestyle, or worldview, Swati often experiences little resistance. This does not mean the process is effortless, but rather that there is minimal attachment to preserving a fixed identity. For Swati, leaving behind familiar structures does not feel like a loss. It feels natural.

This quality also explains why Saturn is exalted in Swati Nakshatra. Saturn represents the dissolution of ego and the capacity to sustain long-term bonds through humility and adaptability. In Swati, the concept of “letting go of the ego” becomes tangible. It is not from a place of obedience, nor is it about traditional ideas of masculine or feminine submission. Swati individuals often demonstrate this pattern not only in relationships, but in life overall. They are inclined to leave behind environments, identities, and roles that no longer stimulate growth.

In this way, Swati Nakshatra offers a living example of what it truly means to dissolve the ego within relationships through conscious transformation.

If you are struggling with unproductivity, discipline, punctuality, or a general resistance to effort, the last and final part (Part 3) is meant for you. Whether this shows up as a debilitated Saturn in the chart or simply as difficulty sustaining structure, committing to long-term goals or relationships, or letting go of an old identity, this framework is designed to address the root of it rather than just the symptoms. This includes aversion to hard work, inconsistency, procrastination, difficulty with legacy-building, or an inability to stay engaged with a routine once the initial interest fades.

What follows explains why these patterns exist in the first place, both energetically and psychologically, and how they are reinforced over time. Alongside that, there will practical and spiritual methods to work through them, by restructuring the way you relate to effort, identity, and action. This approach is also especially useful if you struggle with rigid beliefs, ego attachment, or difficulty leaving familiar roles behind. The goal is not self-improvement in the conventional sense, but learning how to step into a different internal posture altogether, one that makes consistency, effort, and follow-through feel natural rather than imposed.

Stay tuned!